Quick-write: The Rules of Love

Quick-write: The Rules of Love

Prompt: Answer any of the four questions provided below.

1. What rules govern the behaviour of young men and women in relationships today?

 

2. Name a situation in which the rules have clearly been violated. That is, what actions or gestures do women just do not do; what actions or gestures that gentlemen do not do…?

 

3. What are the possible consequences for being in violation of these rules?

 

4. Where do these rules originate? Who invented these rules and who enforces them?

 

A “relationship” for the purpose of this post refers to a romantic or passionate attachment to a person.

 

Although the term relationship in all respect of the word technically means simply the relation connecting or binding participants in a “relationship” – basically put as a kinship, the “rules of love” could apply to the aforementioned.

 

In my point of view, there are two schools of thought one what governs the behaviour of young couples. There is a more traditional school of thought that a gentleman should formally ask for a date (usually to a fine dinner or film), and the media-popular mentality that a man finds a woman based on his “sexual” drive toward her. I am much a fan of the former – a more sophisticated view – a significant other; while the latter seems to treat women as more as a means to please his…desires (if you will).

 

If the desired route is the formal presentation, the rules are generally strict and rigid with limited opportunity for independent variation. He (the gentleman) will ask her (the lady) on a date – usually, but not limited to, a fine dinner, a walk through a garden or park, a movie, or a tour (or variation thereof). He will dress formal or semi-formal appropriate for the scenario. He will treat her in a respectful manner with commonplace gestures – opening the door and allow her to enter first, picking her up, driving her to and from locations of the date, paying for the bill, speaking with language void of profanity, and not bringing his mother, etc. I assume there are many others that dictate the proper formalities of a date. The world of relationships is a complex state – true love is something difficult to come by. American media (along with other media) greatly influence the “modern” approach to relationships – especially with the younger “technology” generations.

 

To my understanding, current ideals of a date would be to go to a dance or club. He is to purchase drinks and other alcoholic beverages, possibly to get drunk. Thereafter sexual desires may affect the actions of him or her – possibly to the extent of sexual intercourse. Unfortunately, the “health” of the relationship is greatly jeopardised.